Am I Wrong To Ask Friends To Reimburse Fiancé For Drinks?
People love dining out with friends, but who pays is always a hot topic. Asking for separate checks is the best option, but not always available in every restaurant. In situations where one person pays for the entire check, should they expect to be paid back? One person was left asking the internet if they were wrong to ask friends to reimburse fiancé for drinks. Keep reading to learn more about the incident and decide who was wrong and who was right.
Tipping Culture Is Out Of Control
Going out to eat is expensive these days. Even fast food places like Chipotle are pricier than ever. In addition to paying for the food, diners are expected to tip the waitstaff, at least in America. Other countries have a no-tip policy, so they’re shocked to find out that tipping is a normal thing in the United States.
But now even, U.S. residents are pushing back against the tipping culture. Most restaurants include tipping options on the payment kiosk or keypad. Some shady businesses cover the “no tip” option to fool patrons into tipping.
Am I Wrong To Ask Friends To Reimburse Fiancé For Drinks?
According to an etiquette expert asked by Glamour magazine, the general rule to dining out with other people is that the one who asks pays. There are some exceptions to that rule. For example, most parents outright refuse to let their children pay. In that case, the expert said to let them out of “politeness and respect.”
But what if you’re out with a group of friends, and the restaurant has a policy against split checks? That’s the scenario one social media user found themselves in recently. The person’s fiancé ended up paying the full bill, and they asked their friends to pay their share via Venmo. The bill came to around 700.
No money was sent from the friends. So the diner took to the popular “Am I The A**hole” subreddit to ask if they were wrong to expect reimbursement.
“Recently, we went out with 3 of my friends, 2 of whom are a couple that both work and one single friend who is in grad school,” the social media user explained. They said their fiancé is “wealthy” and usually pays the bill.
However, in this case, the friends chose a more expensive restaurant. After the bill was paid, the Redditor let their friends know to expect a Venmo request for part of the bill. However, “none of them responded to my text or my Venmo request,” the Redditor wrote.
“AITA for asking them to pay him back even though he’s rich?” they wondered.
What The Internet Says
It’s rare for everyone on an AITAH subreddit post to agree on who is in the wrong. The internet was divided over who was to blame for the dining mishap. Redditors use “NTA” as short for “Not The A**hole” and “ESH” for “Everyone Sucks Here.”
The post received responses using both abbreviations. However, very few, if any, replied “YTA,” which means “You’re The A**hole.” Check out some of the mixed reactions to the post:
- “NTA. I cannot imagine letting someone else pick up the entire bill for me! That is mortifying. OP these are not your friends, they are scoungers.”
- “ESH – You said your fiance will normally get the bill when you guys go out. If he didn’t want to this time, then something should have been said before everyone started eating and drinking.”
- “NTA he is being taken advantage of.”
- “ESH – consider this a cost of a lesson learned and don’t go out with them again.”
- “NTA but these are leeches, not friends.”
- “You better make sure they pay him back. I hate freeloaders and that’s what they’re looking like to me”
Who do you think was wrong – the friends for ignoring the Venmo request or the other person and their fiancé for not setting clear boundaries? Sound off in the comments.
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